Meet Ben; a little bit about something
Saying that life is less than an amazing journey is a grand mistake. I found that I've learned a lot of this life from crashing, burning and coming out on the other side. For me everyday starts a new adventure and gives an opportunity to make the day better than the last. I will be the first to admit that I am not a person of words. I am a person of actions. I plan, I make lists, I have amazing goals, and I never reach for anything less than the stars.
I have found that along this journey we meet amazing dynamic people. Some of them enter for just a piece of the journey. They provide their insight and show us how to better read the map or how to make it through a storm. Others aren't people we meet, but instead are people who ride in the seat next to us, or ride in the backseat. To say that one type of person is better than the other is also a mistake. I have found that I have some of the most amazing friends, be it in the past, present, or future tense.
For me part of this journey is surrounding yourself with beautiful people, beautiful memories, things, and places.
I love classic TV, film, and design. I am passionate about the beauty of regular objects and I love good food, good travel, and good discussion. Along this journey I have three constants, good food, good friends, and really good dynamic music. I love music of all kinds. I have hundreds of CD's of every genre and I always have a soundtrack playing in my head. I am also passionate about good fashion. I believe the way we present ourselves says so much about who we are. I love all types of fashion but you are most likely to find me in a pair of good jeans, a solid color T-shirt, and a pair of good well worn boots. I am very independent. It is my most dominate quality.
While I love surrounding myself with people I also really appreciate the alone time where it is just me and music or me and the open road. I have really changed a lot it seems, but a lot of me feels I'm still the same person. I have however learned the importance of just being myself. Living a lie is the worst thing we can ever do in life. I have learned to live without fear and to live each day as if it could be your last.
Yes, the above is from a 2008 Facebook profile.
We don't always get to choose everything about who we are... But we do get to choose the fights we fight, the friendships we build, the way we handle who we are, and the paths we take. At the end of the day do these not truly determine who we really are?
A QUOTE FROM MADEA
"Some people are meant to come into your life for a lifetime, some for only a season and you got to know which is which. And you're always messing up when you mix those seasonal people up with lifetime expectations.
I put everybody that comes into my life in the category of a tree. Some people are like leaves on a tree. When the wind blows, they're over there... wind blow that way they over here... they're unstable. When the seasons change they wither and die, they're gone. That's alright. Most people are like that, they're not there to do anything but take from the tree and give shade every now and then. That's all they can do. But don't get mad at people like that, that's who they are. That's all they were put on this earth to be. A leaf.
Some people are like a branch on that tree. You have to be careful with those branches too, cause they'll fool you. They'll make you think they're a good friend and they're real strong but the minute you step out there on them, they'll break and leave you high and dry.
But if you find 2 or 3 people in your life that's like the roots at the bottom of that tree you are blessed. Those are the kind of people that aren't going nowhere. They aren't worried about being seen, nobody has to know that they know you, they don't have to know what they're doing for you but if those roots weren't there, that tree couldn't live.
A tree could have a hundred million branches but it only takes a few roots down at the bottom to make sure that tree gets everything it needs. When you get some roots, hold on to them but the rest of it... just let it go. Let folks go." — Madea (Tyler Perry)